Interdependence vs Independence

We are taught to be independent, strong and resilient. As women we are taught as women to not rely on a man for our survival. Men are taught to not show any weakness and find emotional support. Obviously, being told to take responsibility for ourselves and our own happiness is a great thing. However, it’s made a lot of humans feel like depending on a parter is a terrible thing. And I’m here to tell you it isn’t.

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Anxious attachment and dating

Okay, so you have an anxious attachment style. Now what? How do you deal with it when it comes to dating? Are you doomed forever? NO WAY JOSE!

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Anxious attachment

Do you find yourself falling in love quickly? Do you go on a date or two with a potential partner and already start envisioning your future wedding and children? Do you feel anxious after hanging out with a future partner and can’t stop obsessing about whether or not they will text you again?

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New love for your old love

Break ups are hard. Obviously! We all process them differently but, I think we can agree breakups are sad. There’s always that point, after a break up, where you start to feel better. Life is on the up swing and it’s always at that moment that you’ll see your old love with a new love. Knowing your ex is moving on can be even more painful than the break up and that’s what I want to talk about today.

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Dunking and bleaching

2017 was a big high for me. I got sober. I started long distance running. I started to taking French. I took control of my health and felt the best I have since my health declined when I was 27. My work was fulfilling. I realized a huge dream of mine and set out on a journey through SE Asia. I fell in love and got to travel with my partner (another dream). It was a lot of expansion. There were heartbreaks and let downs inside of that but mostly it was just a year of hell yes. The start of 2018 continued that trend. I was still madly in love and still traveling. High up in the clouds as I expanded from the experience. And then I came home.

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Stop looking. No really.

When I was single for 8 years, I was pretty desperate for a relationship. I would talk to people who had been single for long periods of time and found love again. I would talk to women who found their partners at later point in life. I would talk to anyone in a relationship really and ask them, “How do I find this? How did YOU find this?” They all said the same thing. Literally, everyone person told me the same piece of advice over and over. Stop looking.

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An ode to our Breast friends

First guest post alert! My dear friend, Leslie Bish, is here spitting some real talk on boobies. Leslie is an illustrator, herbalist, movement instructor and all around kick ass human. In today’s post she is going to help us ladies understand the importance of self breast massage, our lymph in relation to our breasts and provide us with a killer recipe for her breast salve. Keep reading and let us know what you think!

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A guide to enjoying online dating

I’ve been single again for about 7 months. And I’m loving it. Around the end of September and early October, I started to get hints that I was ready to start dating again. I had a couple dreams back to back that showed me I was getting the go ahead from the deepest parts of me to begin to call in my new partner. I sat with the feeling for awhile because I have been truly savoring this season in my life and I’m in no rush to let it end. In November I finally felt ready to listen to the call and start the process of opening my gates once again.

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Dating and beauty

When I think of going out on a date, I automatically think of all that entails to get ready for one. It’s the time we women pull out all the stops: shave our legs, wear cute undies that might even match our bra, curl our hair and put on perfect makeup. It has felt like we have to do these things or we won’t be viewed as attractive or put together. Sometimes it feels impossible to separate what we do for the male gaze and what we do for ourselves.

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Single and the Holidays

Being single around the Holidays tends to get a bad rap. Movies depict this scenario as being sad and the single person (it’s usually a woman) longing for love. And the trope has stuck. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. Being single isn’t a curse or something we are afflicted with or a burden. Being single is a time of self discovery, exploration and being selfish.

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The new relationship anxiety

So, you meet a guy. First date went well. He asked for a second date on the first, score. Second date went great too. There’s been some fun playful banter over text in-between seeing each other. Third date is even better. And now, you’re not really hearing from him. He’s still reaching out but, maybe there’s more time in-between his responses to you. The anxiety sets in. Is it me? What happened? Is he bailing?

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Foolish games

One of the biggest complaints I hear about dating as a love coach is the amount of games involved when seeing someone. I understand the complaint and I used to have a similar one even though I was out there playing all sorts of game too. Now, I recognizes games are useless and not needed. What is sorely need in place of games is radical vulnerability and boundaries. What’s the difference? Glad you asked!

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